Being someone who lost about 10 pounds right off the bat, I felt anything but pretty and sexy and confident. When I got separated, I temporarily became a person who doesn’t define who I really am. I was very stressed because I now had to think about what I was going to do for work, with no current computer skills and no belief in myself. I was coming out of a toxic situation: I think when two people are in an unhappy, unhealthy marriage, (which could be for years) both are losing self-worth every minute they stay together. Because you are around this person constantly who you think hates you, or who is belittling you, or who you know doesn’t want to be with you anymore, or who is condescending, or mean.
Or, maybe you are the one who wants out of the marriage.
A floppy relationship triangle exists when the man in question is at the apex of that triangle and the two women are represented by the other two points.
Each woman is connected to the man but they are not usually connected to each other. The gamut can run from two women who have known one another in the past, even possibly friends, to total strangers who are now connected to each other only by being attached in some way to the same man.
Triangles are stable when all three legs are connected.
What that means in a three-way relationship is that each day is securely connected.
Since their marriage failed, they don’t want a repeat performance, so they tend to assume the dominant role.
Maybe you hate yourself a little bit because of that.
Being in such a volatile and unhealthy relationship had really taken a toll on how I felt about myself. Hello 40’s: This might apply to any woman, married or divorced, but it’s hard to ignore the number 40.
When i was recently separated, I was sitting around one night and I got a call from a friend of mine, asking me to meet her, her husband and “some of his work buddies” at a local bar. I walked out the door in a pair of jeans that I probably couldn’t get one leg into today, and a sleeveless top that showed off my slim (at the time) arms.
My kids were on vacation with my ex, so I had no child care issues. When I walked into the bar, my friend came rushing over to me.